Up until now, as is well known, I have been entirely female specific with the Sanctuary, but over the years have been asked if I could help couples, who are enabling each other to drink too much. I did engage with The Six Week Programme in November for one couple who were just at the end of the line with the constant, habitual sharing of a bottle too many of wine or spirits in the evenings, with a good outcome for both.
So, from April, I am opening a new strand to the Sanctuary, that will help couples in this position. As a cognitive behavioural therapist, the method works of course for all sexes, but feel so passionate about this particular problem. There has been an increase in divorce, 70% over the last five years blamed on the rise of alcohol consumption, mainly in the home.
In 2016 The Telegraph featured The Sanctuary on this subject.
It is very sad for anyone to be in the grip of any dependence, but when families are torn apart by it, when it could so effectively, nipped in the bud. There is no doubt men and women are not only biologically different but have a completely different mindset when it comes to their use of alcohol. We will naturally see if possible the couples together, but they will do their diaries, and daily contact completely separately, and if they wish to share a problem that they both feel would be beneficial to write together, that too can be part of the programme. All of us who have been in a relationship do have subjects that we do not want to raise between each other and we will respect that confidentiality completely.
I do hope that using our unique and very non-disruptive method in this way will save marriages or partnerships that are on the rocks due to this cruel substance and give those involved the opportunity to start with a fresh and happy slate.
Another new chapter for both the Sanctuary and the Sober Revolution.